So, you think you need a mentor?
You’ve read Titus 2 (older women teaching younger women), you know where you fit in the model, and you’ve decided a mentor is just the thing you need!
You’re probably right.
Actually, you’ve just joined an ever growing population of women who are ready to admit there are still scores of things that we don’t know. (It took me longer than most people, so, if you are coming late to the game I totally know your pain. )
Congratulations! Admittance is always the first step.
Now here are 5 truths about mentorship that will help you on your way!
- Mentors are easier to find than you think! Widen your scope just a smidge. You may not find a once a week coffee with the author of your favorite book or Bible study. But, I am willing to bet there is an awesome woman, filled with wisdom and truth (THAT YOU DON’T HAVE); and she’d willingly pass it on to you! The truth is, there are WILLING mentor’s everywhere! In every church, in every city, in every school, on every computer… everywhere! Seriously girl, if you can’t find a mentor, it’s because you aren’t looking hard enough, or because your scope is too small. I know that sounds harsh so let me be your cheerleader and say, you can do it!!! I believe in you!
- If you want a mentor, YOU will have to seek one out. The truth is, your mentor is probably not out looking for a new protégé. Why not? Because they are busy being awesome at the very thing you’d like them to mentor you in. So, if you want to be mentored, you’re going to have to learn the art of hustling (the Jon Acuff kind, not the other kind…awkward). Put yourself out there. Really, the worst thing they can say is no, and I promise that really isn’t as bad as it sounds.
- You need clear expectations. I wouldn’t expect your mentor to have a 6 week mentorship 101 class outlined for you. I’m not saying it can’t happen, but it shouldn’t be an expectation. The gift your mentor gives to you is time, wisdom, and experience. What you do with that is in large part up to you. It’s a great idea to have your expectations outlined before approaching a perspective mentor so you both know if what they can commit to is actually what you are looking for.
- Expect to have multiple mentors. Insist on it! Even if you found a woman that is just the epitome of all that you want to be, remember that she is not you! And you are not her. Don’t try to be something you are not. God made you special! If you need a one-person example to imitate, look to Jesus. He’s got it all. I feel so blessed by the many women who have poured into my life. Women who have helped shape who I am as a mom, homemaker, wife, speaker, writer, and friend. Each of them make me more like Christ… He is the ultimate mentor!
- You need to be an awesome student. Should you get a mentor? Yes. Get several. But understand this: the quality of your mentor will not affect the quality of your ministry unless you are willing to put in the heart work. The buck starts and stops with you young Padawon. Prove you want to grow, by being an awesome student: show up on time, be prepared, and find creative ways to use the knowledge and insight you gain.
There is it ladies: 5 truths about mentorship that’ll get you on your way! Now go prepare your big ask! YOU CAN DO IT!!
Here’s a great blog on women mentoring women! Thanks Bianca, I’ve carried some of your thoughts with me for a couple weeks now. Which is especially weird because I can’t even remember what I ate for dinner. Anyway, hope you guys like it too!
Praying for you this week. That the Lord would reveal the desires of your heart and you would believe He is able to do more than you ask or think!